What about when you're dark skin and not considered black enough for your own people and white enough for whites? Princess Diana once said in the Panorama doc, that there were three people in her marriage. In my case, growing up in London, there were three in my upbringing — my mother and father (black and of W.Indian descent) and my childminder (a white English childminder). In my case, you manage to distract all that is offensive about yourself and emphasize those qualities which are found acceptable. A crazy way to survive!